My arm is missing…


…or that’s what it feels like! I thought i was going to chuck a party once Yasu was off to Tasmania, but after a few days that feeling has worn off and i’m lonely as hell. I don’t mind it so much during the day as i can go out and do stuff, but it’s at night when i go to bed and the place where Yasu usually is, is empty that i hate it.

I know, it’s strange you know. Yasu usually punches me in the head, kicks me and bashes me in the back of the head, rolls over on me, all while he is asleep. And i’m usually complaining about it. One time he bashed me in the ribs and actually cracked a few, i can’t tell you what agony that was, it took months to heal. But what i wouldn’t give just to be hit in the head tonight…haha. I just miss his whole presence.

After 5 years of marriage i started to sometimes think Yasu was a pain at times, so demanding of all my attention. But now, i have no one to give my attention to, i’m so used to giving it all to him. There’s only so many things i can do by myself, i’ve well and truly de-stressed and relaxed.

I know i said i was having a break but i think i’ll go nuts if i do that. I need to get it out so i will write. I called him tonight and broke down on the phone. I know it was hard for him and it kind of put pressure on him, because he couldn’t do anything from all the way over there. Then he told me he was supposed to be coming back on 27th but the boss over there said he probably can’t come back til another week after that, so i’m kinda sad. It feels like he’s away forever.

If anything i’ve learnt a lesson. I won’t take him for granted when he gets home!

Japanese Supermarkets in Perth (are racist)

I know from the title of the post someone may get offended, but it’s not intended to make people feel that way, it’s just an honest observation from my experience in Japanese supermarkets in Perth.

I frequent Japanese supermarkets. They just don’t sell the same Japanese food supplies in Oriental grocers. You will find a small Japanese food section in almost every oriental grocer - the products are limited to soy sauce, ponzu sauce, ramen, soba, and S&B golden curry it seems. Then there are the displays of China-produced Koala no March, Hello Panda, and Yam Yam at the cash register. Some even have a small supply of Hi-Chew. This kind of supply will probably satisfy the average Japanophile. Not me. For my Japanese husband who wants to eat the taste of home, it just doesn’t cut it.

There are 3 major Japanese supermarkets in Perth. They are Nippon Food Supplies in Subiaco, Maruyu Patochan in Perth, Loi’s/Lion in Perth/Northbridge. Loi’s is the same company as Lion, don’t know why it has a different name though. For those who are searching for Japanese food products i will give an overview below.

My main Japanese Supa (supermarket) is Nippon Food Supplies, but as that is a considerable distance from me i only go there about once a month to stock up on essentials and a few goodies. The other stores in Perth i frequent about once a week depending on what i need or what is on special. But i digress.

I’ve noticed a pattern. Japanese people walk in the door of any supermarket and they get greeted with “Irasshaimase!” in a big loud voice. I walk in after them, the silence is deafening. A Japanese person walks in after me, they get the big hearty “Irasshaimase!”. Sorry, last time i looked i didn’t think i was invisible! It’s just so damn rude. I am sure they are familiar with my face, as i frequent their stores, but because i’m Australian, i don’t even get a greeting. Surely it’s not too hard for them to give a “Hello!”, or even a “Harrow!” depending on their accent… It’s just so obvious. I probably spend more in their supa’s than the average Japanese person, usually between $30 - $50 every shop. Whereas alot of their Japanese customers are travellers or students who don’t have alot of money for overpriced Japanese ingredients. But it shouldn’t be about how much you spend, what you buy or even the colour of your face, it should be about us, the consumer, getting treated right. I wouldn’t take this behaviour in other supermarkets. I would complain. But how do i complain to a Japanese supermarket?

On thinking about it, i think it’s going to be difficult to complain. I for one, am a minority. Sort of. Well, it’s my country, and they are the guest. But, it’s their food, and i am the guest.

It’s all very different when i walk in with Yasu. He gets a big hearty “Irasshaimase!” and i sometimes get a nod. Heaven forbid if they have to actually talk to the barbarian! I’m sorry, i can’t help feeling so peed off about it. It happened to me again yesterday and it just makes me feel like Mrs. Nobody.

I spent $25 in their store. A little under the usual amount as i was just getting a few treats. I was having a quick browse around the store and there were a few other Japanese in there too. After getting greeted they were then approached by the staff members to ask if they needed any help. I was not approached but left to browse by myself.

I know what you’re going to say. Maybe they don’t have confidence to speak English to me. Ok, but how much confidence does it take to say Hello? I wouldn’t mind if they only said Hello and nothing else. If they don’t know how to say “Can I help you?” that is fine, i don’t care. But abit of acknowledgement wouldn’t go astray. I just want to know that when they employ people, do they take their workers aside and say “don’t acknowledge the gaijin, we don’t want them in our store, if they do enter, try to discourage them from returning!” I know, i’m not a gaijin! But i still get called a gaijin by Japanese people who live here, even though they are clearly the gaijin not me! But that’s a whole other story…

So what should i do? Grin and bear it? Ignore them as much as they ignore me? Hard, when they ignored me first, and wouldn’t know if i was ignoring them if they were ignoring me… confused yet? It’s a thorn in my side. It shouldn’t worry me, but it does. I think it all stems down to equality. I’m a closet feminist.

Ok, for all the Perth people; an overview of Japanese supermarkets in WA.

#1 Nippon Food Supplies - Crossways Shopping Centre, Hay Street, Subiaco
Great selection of Japanese food products.
They carry Japanese snacks, lollies, chips, chocolate, drinks, every kind of noodle, curry including House vermont curry, Kokumaro, Hamtaro and Anpanman children’s curry, Mitarashi Dango, Frozen veggies, fish, croquettes, gyoza etc, every sauce imaginable, every tea imaginable, umeboshi, tofu, sushi supplies, rice, kewpie, and all household ingredients like spices, flours, mochi etc. A real one-stop-shop. The staff are all Japanese and they don’t greet non-Japanese, but if you can handle that, it’s worth a look. They also don’t speak much english, so if you need help with food labels, take a Japanese friend with you.

#2 Maruyu Yumehiroba Patochan - Barrack Street, Perth City
This shop has a large range of Japanese health and beauty supplies including sunscreen, lip gloss, skin whiteners, shampoo, conditioner, skin care, hair dye, bath salts, over-the-counter medicines like Oronain, Una, Serogan etc, Mimikaki’s, Shower gel, women’s sanitary products, Japanese condoms. Also they have every day food supplies such as curry and stew from House, lots of cup noodles and noodles, lollies, chocolate, biscuits, traditional Japanese tea snacks, a small variety of Japanese drinks like Pocari sweat, mostly Pokka brand tea or juice drinks, some made in Korea. They also have a $3 shop which is basically products from the 100 Yen store which include homewares like cooking implements, nail polish, makeup, toothbrushes, hairbrushes, slippers, tamagoyaki pans, tupperware, stationery etc. They also have a mark-down stand for items that have passed the used by date, usually half price or more. They also have a loyalty card. Every $5 you spend earns you a stamp, 10 stamps means $2 off your next purchase. Some stamps you get go towards a special discount of 15% off your purchase.

#3 Lion Oriental Food Wholesaler - Fitzgerald Street, Northbridge
This retailer, although it is an Oriental food shop, mostly sells Japanese food products. They specialise in general grocery items like curry, tofu, noodles, frozen foods, sauces, spices etc and they have a large range of ingredients that the other stores don’t carry, so this store is mainly complimentary. They also sell Japanese candy and snacks, and sometimes have special items like Hello Kitty backpacks with snacks in and stuff like that. They also sell a big range of Japanese bowls, teapots, chopsticks etc.
They sell Japanese beer, sake, wine, umeshu, shochu, etc and have a license to sell it. I go there to buy Japanese beer like Ebisu (malt or regular), Sapporo, Asahi, and Kirin. They have a very large range of Sake!! You can also buy 6 packs or cartons of Japanese beer. I mainly go because we can’t get Sapporo or Ebisu in normal liquor stores here, and the prices are very reasonable for the Japanese beer. 1 bottle of Ebisu was $3.80, the same as a bottle of Kirin Ichiban Shibori at a regular liquor store. They also have cans of Sapporo beer, about 700 mls, which are about $7 each. It’s definitely worth it to go there, even for a look at all the Japanese alcohol. :)

Lion has a subsidiary store called Loi’s which recently burnt down due to a fire. They have now set up shop on the corner of Murray Street and Barrack Street in a little arcade there, occupying 3 small shops. They sell the same things as the mother store except for the alcohol, but they do sell Japanese drinks. I found cans of Kirin Gogo tea, and bottles of Asahi Oolong and Green tea there.

Just a hint. Nippon Food Supplies, Loi’s, and Maruyu do not accept credit cards or eftpos so if you intend to buy something there it is wise to take cash. Lion accept eftpos ($10 minimum) and credit cards.

Becoming a Medium

Over the last few months as i have been undergoing healing through Reiki and Psychic Healing, the main thing i have been told over and over is “You have a natural psychic gift”. No matter who i go to for healing, they all have picked up on this, and told me i should do some work to develop them. The first time i heard it i was shocked, very surprised and didn’t believe that i could be capable of such a thing.

I’ve always heard people speaking in my ear, had sensations of people touching me, and had smells wafting under my nose from out of nowhere. I also recently started seeing little balls of light floating around, most commonly known as orbs. So i’ve had a few experiences with the “unknown”. And to me it was all a little scary to be honest. The thought of being able to talk to, or see, people that have passed over gave me the creeps, all abit too ghostly.

After talking with my regular Reiki practitioner, i decided that now was the time and i had to bite the bullet so to speak and get over my fears. I realised the only fear i had was “fear of the uknown”. What i did not know, i feared. But really, what was there to be scared of? I had already experienced a few things that would freak many people out, and i had not been scared. Nor had i come to any harm. The things i have experienced all felt like warm, loving energy.

I searched for a spiritual development group and i found a Psychic Development Circle on monday nights. My first attendance was last night. The medium who runs the group is a very down-to-earth and fun lady. We all arrived at 8pm and sat down in a circle around a table with candles, the only lighting in the room. R, the medium opened up the circle by asking the spirits to protect everyone in the circle and help us by bringing energy into the group. I had no idea what to expect, but i just thought i was going to go along with the flow and see what happened.

Chakras on the human body

We started off by meditating to a guided meditation cd. Immediately as i started meditating, i felt my head vibrating (crown chakra) and i felt like my head wanted to fall back off my head, i felt so relaxed and noticed my breathing was undetectable to me. Immediately after, i felt a heavy weight on my left arm and something touching my head. I also started to get very hot. During one part of the meditation we were told there was a pool of water and as i heard these words i got a very cold sensation across my face. It was very interesting for me as it was the first meditation i had ever done.

After that R got a bowl and everyone put one personal item or piece of jewellery in the bowl. Then we all selected a piece out of the bowl that wasn’t our own, such as a watch or bracelet. I chose a ring. I didn’t know who’s it was but i was getting a feeling of what direction the person was sitting in. And immediately after holding the ring for a couple of seconds i got a very nervous feeling, very anxious, almost as if i was going to do a speech in front of hundreds of people. I had to put the ring down, it was making me feel very sick. When i put the ring down, the feeling went away. I picked up the ring again and felt that nervous, anxious feeling. I studied the ring. It was a small, petite ring. Made of gold with one large diamond in the middle. The person who owned it was a simplistic person, liked simple things, also had traditional ideas, hence the gold and diamond. The ring had several scratches around the sides which made me feel that they keep this ring on all the time, that the person who had given it to them was close to their heart, or the ring had some kind of sentimental value. When the time came for me to talk about the ring, i stood up in the circle and described all of the above. I asked if the person could understand any of that, and she told me that yes, she could understand 100%, it had all been correct. So i was very surprised!! She said she is a very nervous person, she always feels anxious. So i had gotten that feeling from her ring! The practice of doing this is called Psychometry. And that was my first ever time practicing Psychometry, but i think it was very successful for a first time.

Next up we sat in groups of 2 and held each other’s hands to get a reading from the other person. I held my partners hands and felt that she was a mother, which she confirmed. I told her she was there for her kids, she was 100% all about her kids, she was a firm but fun mother. She is a very calm and collected person, nothing really ruffles her feathers at all, she doesn’t get stressed out about situations, a very much in control sort of person but very loving, to which she replied that yes, it was 100% correct what i had just said. I don’t even know this woman from a bar of soap, but i felt these things when i held her hands! WOW! She said when she held my hands she saw cartoons, haha, not Hello Kitty but Peanuts, Snoopy! The only thing i have of snoopy is a small bento lunch box so i’m not sure why she picked up on that! haha. Yeah, so that was success number two!

Then the last practice was that we contacted spirit and asked to receive a message for someone in the room. Immediately i got the name “Anna/Annie” in my head. I asked if anyone was called that name. A woman to the side of me said her relatives call her Annie. I then said i was getting the words “you are loved”, and i was feeling it was her grandpa. She confirmed that her grandpa that called her Annie had passed over!! OMG. So there i was getting a message from her dead grandpa!! I have never done that before, never knew i was capable! That is sooo amazing. R said that it was really good because Psychometry is level 1 and Mediumship, which i had just practiced successfully is actually a level higher, and i had done it without any knowledge of how to do it! So i had progressed from no knowledge to level 2 in one night!

So i was pretty impressed with myself being able to do that, really amazed with how i could do that. R said i am a medium, always had been but never tried to use my abilities. She made me promise that i would come back next week as she wants me to do more work. I will definitely be going back next week.

I’ve been practising on Yasu. I got his keys when i got home and i had them in my hand and immediately i got a sore back, and i asked him if he had a sore back and he said yes. When i pointed to where it was sore, he said it was the right place. Also i got he had a sore elbow, which he confirmed. The minute i put the keys down, my back and elbow were without pain. When i picked up his keys again, the pain came back! He doesn’t believe in this stuff he tells me, but secretly i think he believes just a little bit, because he never told me he had a sore anything. He kept pestering me “tell me more!” after i had finished…i think it was his way of trying to test me out but i was just too tired after my big night out.

I’m going to keep practicing. Actually i feel like i opened a kind of gate last night because when i was talking to my mum on the phone this morning i kept getting feelings and all kinds of images in my head.

Apart from that just a little bit about what else i’ve been doing. I went out to lunch with a friend (she shouted me as a belated birthday present) and she brought along her Japanese exchange student called Aya. It turns out Aya is from the same suburb in Aomori as Yasu’s Aunty, and i’ve actually been there so i know exactly where she lives haha. She’s a pretty cute girl, very nice with a big craving for Umeboshi. She’s staying in Australia for another 8 months so i think i will go get her some Umeboshi as a nice present. I know when i was in Japan i really craved vegemite sandwiches!! So i know the feeling well.

Also went out shopping with Yasu on the weekend. We bought a water filter so we don’t have to buy expensive mineral water to drink anymore. Yasu can’t stand our tap water, it just isn’t as good as Japanese tap water he says (of course! *note sarcasm*). But the water definitely tastes better. It also has a cooler inside so it cools it after filtering. Yasu bought a new baseball bat for $195, it’s much lighter so he can hit more home runs supposedly! Also visited my mum and my auntie who we hadn’t seen for a long time.

So basically that’s what i’ve been up to.

Anzac Day Baking

As today is ANZAC Day in Australia, i thought i would do my bit and bake some Anzac biscuits. I didn’t get up for the dawn service, nor did i watch it on tv, but i was thinking about it off and on all day. Basically thanking my grandpa for going to war and defending our country.

Combining Sugar, Oats, Flour, and coconut in a bowl
Combining Sugar, Flour, Coconut, and Oats

Melting the Golden Syrup and Butter in the saucepan.
Melting the Butter and Golden Syrup

Mixing it all together
Mixing it all together

Spooning it out on the baking paper
Ready to go into the oven!

The finished product!
The finished product!! Yum!

10,000 Hits and counting…

I just logged in and noticed the hits meter is at 10,028!! Thank you to all my wonderful readers for coming back and reading my blog, how wonderful you all are :) I really appreciate all your comments, so please keep commenting :)

I never thought i would have so many visitors to my site. I thought i would share with you how people got to my site, that is, what they searched for in order to get here.

Top 20 searches to get to Gaijin Fujin:
Numbers in brackets represent how many times that keyword(s) were searched.

#1 - Hello Kitty (177)
#2 - Birthday Cake (136)
#3 - Fujin (71)
#4 - Chakras (45)
#5 - Weird Allergies (41)
#6 - Japanese Girls (33)
#7 - Strange Allergies (33)
#8 - Pineapple Allergies 29)
#9 - Japan Girls (27)
#10 - Japanese Girls Are Easy (25)
#11 - Azumarisan (24)
  (Why is my username being searched?)
#12 - Forced Humiliation (23)
#13 - Shimizu Grand (21)
#14 - Natto Recipe (19)
#15 - Farm (16)
#16 - Japanese Girls Gaijin (16)
#17 - Japanese Forced (16)
#18 - Japanese Humiliation (15)
#19 - Japanese Girls in Perth (13)
#20 - Carp (13)

It surprises me that there are so many searches for Japanese girl, and allergies, of all things. Two things this blog is not focused on! No surprise that Hello Kitty came up, but i was surprised how many searches, 177!

Among the list i found some very weird searches indeed. Somehow they led to my blog, which is a scary thought!!

#1 - Japanese Girl African Tribe
#2 - Color Wheel In Brain
#3 - “Just Eat Coconut”
#4 - Toothbrush Birthday
#5 - Gaijin Grrr!

I can’t believe people actually search these topics, sorry to you if you do! I wonder what the person wanted who was searching for “just eat coconut”? I hope they found it! Toothbrush Birthday brings up questions…what exactly is that? Toothbrush as a birthday present? Toothbrush themed birthday? I give up! Oh well thanks again to all my readers, and searchers who found their way here!